Here's the situation: The guild I'm in right now on Khyber has some pretty cool people, and we just hit level 100 last week. There's lots of people in the guild, but they're either never on when I am, or when they ARE on, they never say anything. This is mostly ok, since I'm primarily a solo player, but it's eerily quiet all the time. There's no TS or Mumble or Ventrilo server, and no one seems to ever say anything in guild chat. Right now there are 10 people online in my guild, and no one has said anything for over an hour. On top of that, the entire server seems to be really dead when I'm on. Part of that's probably due to how old DDO is, but even so, it seems really bad.
I would REALLY like to be in a guild where people actually use the guild channel, or had a voice chat server, or something. It's weird! I live on the west coast but work during prime time, so most of my gaming hours are either during the middle of the day, or late into the night. Currently I play on Khyber, but I'm skilled and knowledgeable enough about the game to be willing to even start over from scratch on a new server. That might even be better, if only to avoid potential drama. I've heard that Ghallanda is a very full server, but I'm open to suggestions.
I'm 37 years old, male, I've been playing DDO on and off for nearly 5 years or so. Sometimes I'm F2P, sometimes I sub. I've got almost every adventure pack unlocked, but I'm still missing some account-wide stuff such as half-breed races, iconic heroes, and the newest expansion. Epic levels don't really interest me much, and I end up doing heroic TRs usually. But even so I've got MotU and epic destinies available. Sometimes I quit playing for a few weeks, but I always end up coming back to DDO, since it's just got amazing replay value that I can't find in other games.
If you have a strong guild with active people and I sound like someone you might like to have in your guild, let me know. I'm happy to answer any other questions you might have as well.
EDIT: I should point out that I do not actually have any characters named Tuffgar. Back when the forums were updated, I got locked into this name, which was my very first test character's name. If you need to contact me, send me a PM using these forums and I'll be sure to respond.