•An "Elite Player" can complete content with/in spite of the "rookie mistakes" often made by newbs, not blame failure upon them. "Elite Players" who pug can and often do help a struggling newby with free advice and bits of gear that would cost a pittance for an established Vet, but seem out of reach to said newby.
•"Elitest" is a title often conferred on those who seem to be intolerant and snobbish "I'm too good for you" types, which the poster has exemplified in the last ~48 hours of forum hilarity.
So thank you DDOisFree for providing such excellent examples of the difference between an "Elitest" and somebody who is truly "Elite."
Now, before the army of "it's not my responsibility to hold noobs hands" shows up, let me add that I completely agree: it's nobody's obligation. However most of you who feel that way seem to accompany such statements with "that's why I don't pug" or "that's why I put (X) in the LFM notes to discourage them from joining" which I think is excellent! But Vets taking new players into pugs and then just booting them for not being top-of-their-game toons is a black eye on the community at large that just serves to discourage a healthy pug scene.