This stems from the TR thread, but please notice the question mark in the title because everyone's situation is different. It is after all a subjective thing. Every MMO player should watch this. There is also a 2 hour special on MMO video games and tons of helpful sites come up with a Google search. Please keep in mind I am one of you.
I am old school DnD, and like the system in DDO and the combat is the best. I have dabbled lightly with other games, but they seem less realistic in combat. Less instantaneous. Less tactical combat and too much click and watch.
I play DDO because it is fun. Not for gear or the next fix. I run quests because they are fun most of the time. It is rare for me to run the game for gear. I have one Greensteel item so far as an example. I have lots of materials with my casual Shrouds over the years, but have not bothered to make anything else. Sometimes I think about it, but I get by just fine with auction house gear mostly. I let the game stay ahead of me. It is more fun that way, and I enjoy it more when I find ways not to grind. I pace myself so I don't burn out or get ****ed. I am patient with the game and try not to ruin it by overplaying.
I am the casual player and have not TR'd yet in 4 year. Why TR when there are easier and less time consuming and less addictive ways to do it without wasting my life. I sell Raid Timers and buy DDO store items to help me keep up with the grinders. It supports the game. When I only have a few minutes I spend on here to help and give a casual way of playing option.
If everyone cycled down a little and became more casual in their play the game would not have to keep up with an addiction to keep it interesting. It is a game and not a way of life. It is wrong to think of it as a job. It is an escape and I can think of more destruction ways to escape the daily life than DDO or MMOs. In that way it is a good thing.
Now you are actually more productive in the game on average by working some overtime in real life, and using that money in the game with the DDO store rather than grinding your life away hours on end. I consider overtime a subjective word in this case and just one example. Some have different options and limitations in real life than others, but that is the exception and not the rule IMHO.
The creators of the game don't want you to play it like crazy. They just want you to have fun and give them money. It makes their jobs harder when people play it too much because they have to keep up to get the money. lol