I don't think Gremmlynn was being deliberately dismissive of anyone's feelings, although I see how his comments could be taken that way. His point about having a different perspective on the situation is valid, and in some ways a bit more healthy than many alternatives from a stress-inducing standpoint. He was, however, wittingly obtuse for his last few posts.
My take on the whole affair is this -
Once I had a bicycle which I scrimped and saved to get. It was a really nice bike and it got me where I wanted or needed to be. That bike meant freedom and I enjoyed the hell out of what it offered. Then life kept on going, the years added up, and the DM (aka parents) said I could get a car. It wasn't the best car (no, it was not), but it got me where I wanted or needed to be much faster than my bike, which was left in the garage, slowly declining into disrepair.
I don't consider the time and effort spent to obtain my bike to have been wasted once I was able to get that beater of a car. The game (society) said I could get the car where once that was not possible, so I did. There may be a day in my lifetime when I'll have to go back to using a bike given changes in the rules - gas prices, carbon taxes, climate change, what have you. Things change. I'll adapt as the alternative is to not play the game which, unlike with DDO, means I'm out for good. And no, you can't haz my stuffz.
Well, that's my take. I know yours is different and that's totally cool. The world is big enough to accommodate both.