The general consensus I'm seeing (with some exceptions, of course) is that many of you prefer to solo a quest at least your first time through. In some cases just because it's your preceded playstyle, in others because of poor grouping experiences. In many posts I'm seeing that people would like to find "first timers welcom" lfms, which are unfortunately few & far between. On quests I know well enough I'll start posting these... At least on my healer type lives
Another common trend I'm seeing is a dislike for waiting around for groups. This is the driving force behind "IP" lfms. For those who would like to group with other new-to-quest players, may I suggest starting an lfm with notes along the lines of "learning the quest, starting in 5 minutes." This takes the leadership burdon off of the pl(party leader) and limits waiting around time to something pretty reasonable, while still giving enough opportunity for some people to join. This is how I did much of my early adventuring carreer, and had some great times running a quest new quest with other new-to-questers. Never liked soloing much early on (personally I hate hirelings and get the impression the feelings mutual) nor did I like the "letting them down" feeling that came with, well, being a noob in the company of vets. Once I became more comfortable with grouping in general, I found it easier to join pugs and just announce "hey, I still don't this quest well, that ok?" More often than not it's more than ok. Many of us actually do enjoy showing newer players how a particular quest works, but will assume that if nobody claims to be new, then nobody is so no explanations are given.
If I may, I'ld like ask some new questions:
For the groups you don't want to join ie: byoh, know it, etc... Do you find it a good thing that people who would likely be intolerant of new players use these, thus informing you they're not likely to be a fun group for you to join?
Conversely, do you think these types of "no noob" lfms are a bad thing and that all quest lfms should be open to all players (of appropriate level range of course), so that the new folks can learn/benefit from running with experienced players?
Those two questions seem to be the "meat and potatos" of most of the lfm arguments we vets indulge in. Some of you have even noted that coming across these particular discussion threads are what preemptively turned you off from pugging from the get-go.
Again, this whole thread has turned out even better than I had hoped and I thank you all!
Btw: I play "Myhealer" on Thelanis, though not at any regular times. Most often I'm on from 10:00 am to 2ish pm, and again from 10pm to 3ish am; all times US/Pacific. I'm TRing constantly, so I revisit any given level range about once every 3-4 weeks. Hit me up anytime you have questions, want a quest guide or need someone of the particular class I am at the moment - currently a Favored Soul, and every life can do traps.