I know BYOH feels exclusionary(is that a word?) to some people who are fairly self-sufficient, and play in a party-friendly manner. I don't know what the solution is. I would like a widely accepted word or phrase that explains that we do not want demanding mana-sponges in party. But, "Bring your own pots. Play like you have good sense. Act like you were raised right. Don't whine or cuss out the divines if you do something dumb and get your fool self killed." just does not fit in the comment box on LFM's. If you have any suggestions, I will be glad to hear them.