I’ve been around the block a few times.
Been playing DDO since about three months after it hit the store shelves.
Played a few other online multiplayer games.
Getting up there in age too….
So…. I have a pretty good idea on how I want to play this game, what I think is fun, and especially how I want to treat other people. (even online people that I will never meet)
Now, like I said, I’ve been playing DDO awhile. I have finished all but two quests in the game (maybe not all of the challenges though) and I have at least attempted those two quests.
I believe I have done over 98% of the quests on elite… or old epic. Done almost all epics on EH. And several on EE. (the things I have not done has been because of a lack of “friendly” LFMs)
Yeah… I think I know a thing or two about DDO.
I PUG. Having only a few regular guildies/friends in-game.
I have seen just about every kind of player.
Not once have I ever wanted to /kick someone.
Not once have I ever cared about someone else’s death(s).
Or DPS. Or HP… build… gear… etc.
I have seen the occasional piker. The guy who goes AFK forever.
Might have been in a Shroud run where the leader was dualboxing. (annoying)
I have been kinda upset when someone releases. (if your soul stone is unretreavable, I will tell you!)
….even then I didn’t want to kick them. (well… not from the party anyway. )
I have occasionally, been kinda bothered that a group of players wants to do elite, when they are obviously not ready.
… I hate to fail.
But what I hate worse, is giving up.
If I just spent a bunch of time and effort and resources on you, you had better not quit on me. (you probably knew quiet well we were doing elite)
I’ve had to practice triage.
I have made a conscience choice to not use res scrolls on someone (once!) (and I think his name started with Dragon! )
…. I have been in groups that “I” wanted to leave.
Usually because they weren’t fun people to group with.
Sometimes just because they were so much better than me, I felt useless.
Quiet often because they wanted to……well…. Cheat IMO. (super cheesy is just about the same thing as cheating… and just as much fun)
I have also left after a quest when people said they wanted to grind it.
Anyway, no amount of screening would have warned me about the groups that I disliked.
Never did I really want to /kick anyone… closest would be the guy who goes off to solo the dungeon and expects us to watch him while he does. (but his characters name should have been warning enough.)
Actually… character name may be the best screening tool we have available!
If it is offensive or crude for instance, that is probably the type of player that I do not want to group with.
I want a nice friendly game. Good attitude is the most important thing.
I would prefer you come prepared. Prefer you were near my level of playing ability. At least able to handle the content and not be so good that I feel useless.
Stay together. (more or less)
Never leave anyone behind.
Don’t offer unsolicited build advice.
Tolerate bad judgments.
Don’t worry about XP. (it will come)
…But. do not be quick to release…. That is just wasting XP IMO. (I can get you up…. Really….. yes…. Even from under the nose of 50 monsters. Even in most lava…… seriously… trust me…. Be patient…… I’m not uber DPS, but just as soon as I can get rid of some of this agro, I’ll figure out a way.)
I’d prefer if we kill as we go. Unless you want to sneak by something… or maybe Invis by it. As long as you understand that we leave no one behind, and that Dungeon Alert is not fun, and may get us killed.
I’d prefer if you have heals and cures. Not required, but we help each other in my groups… we don’t wait for clerics… and we do tuff content.
You will probably have more fun if you come prepared.
But at any rate.
I won’t kick you.
I won’t hate you for being a noob.
I won’t blacklist you for being a noob. ( I don’t even have a blacklist for elitist…although I do remember a few names)
We’re here to have fun. Being heroes!
So leave the anti-social anti-tolerant stressing everything stuff behind.