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    Default Be aware of what trolling can do to people.

    I'll try to keep this compact and objective. First of all, behavior of a bullied person lies in their own hands and agression is still their own doing and not that of a troll/bully. Also, usually the best course of handling a troll is ignoring them and/or showing a clear edge of how far they can go.

    That being said I do hope people will be reading this to understand potential impact. Though the majority of people can deal with insults and other trolling I think most people don't like having to deal with it. Besides that majority there are also people who have a hard time processing these kind of things for several reasons. If you troll those players there is a chance you potentially help them towards a depression, self hurting or worse.

    I'm not going to ask people to stop being themselves, that's an unreal expectation, but at please try to keep this in the back of your head and if you notice that someone really can't deal with your trolling just leave em alone..


    That's the end of the official message I wanted to give.

    From personal experience

    I'm from the Netherlands and a while back there was a newspaper message of a 14y old that ended his life after his "friends" hacked his game account, there was already more going on with him for that to trigger, but I get pretty sad when I read things like that, a young kid like that. It wasn't the first time I read about such things either. When I am in-game or even on the forum the huge amount of negativity can really pester my mood, you are just pressuring eachother into becoming perfect (or appearing so) rather then enjoying being yourselves. Kudo's to those that manage to stand above this, I have a few on my friendlist and proud to know them.

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    @owei, it is important that kids get prepared for life in those aspects so you understand that very well. But, it's hardly an excuse or a reason to troll people, if someone with a big ego walks in on you there are other ways to deal with it (in-game waiting for them to turn into a soul stone usually works just fine)

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    +1 to the OP for this thread.

    @oweieie: Really?? you honestly think that bullying and/or trolling helps people?? I was bullied in elementary school, and that led me to be a violent kid who didn't give a **** if he killed someone until I hit high school. And that was just me getting lucky to have met some of the kindest people I ever have met in high school. I have never been "helped out" by being bullied, I was only helped when people were willing to be kind to me, despite anger issues. To top it off, I now have a hard time dealing with bullies due to it bringing up all the stuff that has happened before. So please, tell me how you know that trolling or bullying someone can help them out in any way?

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    In a post where the OP expresses that gamers do have a shred of decency, civility and social skills, is anyone surprised that someone would come along and show the world a fine example of the stereotypical socially inept trolls that we all get pegged as.

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    Just to give fair warning, I do get very vocal about bullying, and so I might do certain things I normally wouldn't.

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    Making inane excuses to hide behind for being an ass is just the lowest form of cowardice. You're not helping anyone, especially not yourself. Any goofball can spout one liners like "harden the f*** up" but from my experience the real folks with courage and integrity don't open their piehole needlessly and if they do usually for positive reasons.

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    Certain life lessons are best taught by people that actually care about the well being of the person needing the lesson. And not by anonymous entities sitting at a desk behind a monitor who have life lessons they themselves need to learn.

    The problem I find is most Trolls have decided the rest of the world is like them and thus form that frame of mind, it allows them to de-humanize the person. However, like most bullies, they don't like being ignored.


    I would agree, the best way to rid yourself of a troll is to ignore them.

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    One thing that really grinds my gears is when I go to the store and here a cashier say "Happy Holidays". Why is it that they no longer say "Merry Christmas"?

    People get offended over the dumbest things. I fully understand that Turbine must take a politically correct stance on this as well, but these people that get offended over everything need to get help as they are the ones that are insecure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vint View Post
    One thing that really grinds my gears is when I go to the store and here a cashier say "Happy Holidays". Why is it that they no longer say "Merry Christmas"?

    People get offended over the dumbest things. I fully understand that Turbine must take a politically correct stance on this as well, but these people that get offended over everything need to get help as they are the ones that are insecure.

    I have a very good life, with many good things and I feel very good about myself. When I say something, I say what is right, not what is socially acceptable.

    Merry Christmans!

    Correct, that is where many mistake my replies. Often it is said I have a thin skin, or why are you mad? When it is neither. I am not thin skinned or mad, I simply say what I believe, and that will never change. Whether or not it rings true or peeves someone else, well most of the time I just do not care. Taking offense to anothers opinion is fairly common, it is also healthy, flipping out of course is not, but disagreement is not insecurity, this world would be awful boring if we all thought exactly the same way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vint View Post
    One thing that really grinds my gears is when I go to the store and here a cashier say "Happy Holidays". Why is it that they no longer say "Merry Christmas"?

    People get offended over the dumbest things. I fully understand that Turbine must take a politically correct stance on this as well, but these people that get offended over everything need to get help as they are the ones that are insecure.

    I have a very good life, with many good things and I feel very good about myself. When I say something, I say what is right, not what is socially acceptable.
    I don't think this is about being politically correct. It's about how the people on the forums, and maybe to a lesser extent, in game act with such negativity towards others. Go in to any if the current "p2w/p2c" threads and look, without thinking about the content, how much negativity and mean remarks there are. It was similar with the BYOH threads, though to be honest, the BYOH threads helped me develop a bit of a thicker skin.

    Being politically correct, imo, is saying stuff in such a way that no group of people can get upset at it. So "Merry Christmas" becomes "Happy holidays" in order to please muslims, jews, and other religions in addition to Christians. Personally, I don't really care, either way the person was trying to be nice to me, and if it more natural for them to wish me a happy holiday season with "Merry Christmas" I would actually prefer them to say that, despite not being a christian. The reason is because the message, in it's essence, is the same, but by allowing someone to do it in the most natural way possible, I feel you increase the sincerity of the message.

    Yes, I understand you may have a good life. But please, people, try to understand others may not. They may have been verbally, mentally, or even physically abused in the past. And given my situation, which at most could be a very light level of abuse (when compared to others), I can tell you these things leave scars that last for a long, long time. I'm not asking for anyone's pity, I just am very much against bullying, as I don't ever want someone to have to suffer through what I did, or more, especially over a video game

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    Trolling impact is overrated.

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    Default Maybe I'm just Too Old...

    ...but I just don't get this 'bullying' bit. Have we failed collectively as a society to properly rear our children? If you coddle people until they enter adulthood they'll never understand why they get fired from a job, broke up in a relationship, etc. All those people have ever heard their whole life is "Great Job" and " Yes" and develop 0 coping skills. It's a sorry state of affairs IMO.

    Then there's the actual impact of words.

    The authors of the words aren't the ones determining the power of them... ...it's the recipient. The people receiving them are the ones that determine how much of an impact they have upon themselves. People allow themselves to take things personally and get upset instead of considering the facts and replying or just walking away. It's funny how people lose their critical thinking skills when 'feelings' are brought into it.

    Like I said maybe I'm too old but I never heard of these types of bad situations coming about in my day. Maybe they were some but they were so far and few between that they were anomalies.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pfold View Post
    ...but I just don't get this 'bullying' bit. Have we failed collectively as a society to properly rear our children? If you coddle people until they enter adulthood they'll never understand why they get fired from a job, broke up in a relationship, etc. All those people have ever heard their whole life is "Great Job" and " Yes" and develop 0 coping skills. It's a sorry state of affairs IMO.

    Then there's the actual impact of words.

    The authors of the words aren't the ones determining the power of them... ...it's the recipient. The people receiving them are the ones that determine how much of an impact they have upon themselves. People allow themselves to take things personally and get upset instead of considering the facts and replying or just walking away. It's funny how people lose their critical thinking skills when 'feelings' are brought into it.

    Like I said maybe I'm too old but I never heard of these types of bad situations coming about in my day. Maybe they were some but they were so far and few between that they were anomalies.
    I'm pretty sure it's been said a number of times in this thread, but it's about how you say it.

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    Saying 'I disagree with you and think your wrong because...' and 'you're a moron who doesn't have a clue because...' both have the same essence but one is discussion and the other is trolling.
    that's one example of how the same idea can be expressed 2 different ways, and I think almost everyone would rather have the first over the second. Also, this thread was about how for some people, there are no "Great Job" statements, there are people who are verbally, mentally, and/or physically abused. Considering how fragile I am, and what I went through is, at the most extreme perspective, just over the borderline, I can see how for someone who had real levels of abuse the way a sentence like that is put could mean the difference between a good day and suicide.

    This is amplified by the anonymity of the internet. You don't know whether the person on the other end is a person relaxing from a hard day at work or a person trying to escape from the abusive horrors of their life.

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    If only it were so. If only it were so. I just do not understand the need to kick people when they are down.

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    Someday the online paradigm will change. The Anonymous outing of Amanda Todd's abuser was almost that change, but in itself, through inaccuracy and assumption showed part of the problem.

    I just do not understand taking pleasure in the misery of others and even enjoying their death. It is such an awful thing. Why?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vint View Post
    One thing that really grinds my gears is when I go to the store and here a cashier say "Happy Holidays". Why is it that they no longer say "Merry Christmas"?

    People get offended over the dumbest things. I fully understand that Turbine must take a politically correct stance on this as well, but these people that get offended over everything need to get help as they are the ones that are insecure.

    I have a very good life, with many good things and I feel very good about myself. When I say something, I say what is right, not what is socially acceptable.
    How things are said is as important as what is said.

    Saying 'I disagree with you and think your wrong because...' and 'you're a moron who doesn't have a clue because...' both have the same essence but one is discussion and the other is trolling.

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